For those of you (all three of you) that have followed this blog since the beginning, yes, I did write about friendship two years ago. But ideas evolve and new experiences happen. And right now, it seems appropriate to write about it again.
I'm struggling with navigating friendships, particularly with the fact that most all of my good friends now live far away from me. I'm very thankful for all of the social media sites and cell phones that allow me to stay in contact with them, but it's still not easy. And a lot of that is with me.
During the campaign, I had heard of the "post-campaign lull" and mostly wrote that off as nonsense (sorry guys). But I am just now realizing how real that is. Yes, the election has been over for about 6 weeks, but this is the first time in that time I've actually really slowed down and had the blessing/curse of a ton of downtime to think about that. Coupled with the fact that I don't have a job, I really feel that lull right now. Not sure if it's just me or if others have noticed that.
What also is hard is that I love being in constant communication with people-more than most people probably want, which I feel guilty about. I feel like a needy friend almost all of the time right now. The thing is, texting and social media sites are perfect for someone like me that is both an extrovert and introvert: I have an easy way to talk to people, but can do it while by myself. PERFECT! Surely the problem is exacerbated by the fact that I have nothing but free time right now (which is hard for me to handle as I've always had school or a job my entire life-and have enjoyed that). But I get paranoid that if I am not having daily (or almost daily) contact with good friends, that it means our friendship is falling apart. Is that extreme? Probably. I know others do not feel that, which is probably way more healthy.
There is something I want to say other than bitching about my problems. And that is that I love my friends. I try to do whatever I can to help them, and want to be there whenever necessary (seriously, guys, you are the best. You know who you are). I'm sorry if I am overbearing-I just care. But to those of you that are still reading, love your friends. Do nice things. Listen to them. Hug them (if they like it that is-a laugh for those that are aware of my aversion to hugs). Also, if you have an issue with a friend-talk it out-it's better to take care of the problem now than let it blow up and possibly ruin the friendship. Trust me-making friends after you graduate is not as simple as it has been. Hold on to those you want to stay in touch with.
Any thoughts, feelings, etc you have on this, feel free to share via the Facebook comments or message me.
Love ya bye!
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